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Old May 26, 2014, 04:44 PM
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Originally Posted by waiting4 View Post
I was on an online site years ago and actually met a man who I ended up marrying. We did divorce eventually...but remained friends (I took a set of pics of him for going back on the site and he met and married his now wife who is a lovely woman and gave him 2 sons)....I've also had unpleasant experiences with sites but mostly because I didn't listen to myself.

If it feels wrong, or 'weird'....just don't. If you meet a guy from the site, take care of yourself: make sure someone knows where you've gone etc. Don't make the first 'meet up' at night. Make it in a busy place...like coffee at dunkin donuts or starbucks. Have his phone number.....give it to a friend/family member. I mean basically do all the things a smart woman/man would do when meeting someone in person for the first time.

There ARE men (AND WOMEN) who are just looking for a 'hook-up'. You can weed them out simply because both have the attention span of a gnat. If you don't meet them right away, they WILL lose interest. It's the ones who are willing to talk, to take it slowly...for as long as it takes for YOU to feel comfortable, that can be keepers.

With them, at the very least, you'll meet someone who may become a great friend. Like my ex ended up being. Just take care or yourself.



btw....sometimes you meet people right under your nose and don't realize what an amazing person they are until you start to talk to them. That happened with me....on THIS site................. hehehehe

Hmmmmmm ...very cool. I like to hear the positive things. Online dating may or may not be for me but I also am watching my stepsister going through it -and I can see it take a toll on her self esteem.
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