Hi Avaa

One word: Deplorable.


I liked the term Myzen used to describe your abuse: ‘rubbishing’. As some people have said it would be a good idea to get into therapy somehow as you need a professional to help you go through the journey of healing, it’s hard to do that alone. Avaa your step-mother’s behaviour towards you was deplorable and very cruel in the things she said to you. I would describe the things she said to you as evil. We don’t have to get into religion here to use that word, simply by her behaviour and words it is justified to use that word. Saying things like you have AIDS because you were skinny or denying love from your father when you wanted a hug. All these things amount to severe psychological abuse but unfortunately you may not be able to have her charged unless I think there was sexual abuse. But this is determined by which country or state you live in.


I had a birth mother which is just as bad who terrorised me in every way. If it wasn’t enough that she abused me, she then got her daughters (my sisters) to do her bidding. I’m not on speaking terms at the moment with my mother due to what she did. As part of my healing journey I need distance (emotionally and physically) from her. I have also confronted her in the past but this achieved nothing. You may want to try these strategies at some point to regain your internal power. Sometimes confronting an abuser may make them realise their sins towards you. But as other people have said, getting a good therapist will allow you to start to heal from a traumatic childhood.


Good luck.


Peace

PH