I'm not in a hurry at all. We were already planning on waiting a few years, but the time/date we had discussed is completely different from what he's apparently telling his friends. THAT is what's frustrating me. I don't like the disconnect in our communication. If he wants to get married later, I would rather be a part of the discussion and decision. I don't want him doing things he doesn't want to do just because he thinks it's what I want...when really I just want him to communicate to me what he wants! In addition, I don't want this to turn into something that is put off and put off and put off...until we meet this goal, or this one, or this one, or that one...until it's on hiatus indefinitely. I'm afraid of that. Of course I know we need to be financially stable. That isn't what I meant...I just mean that we both have goals, some that may take decades, and I don't want to wait until we meet every single goal, because by that point our lives will be over! I want to reach my goals with him by my side.
And I would in NO WAY want him to give up his new business!!!! I'm incredibly proud of him! My problem was that he would tell me that he wanted to spend time with me, say, on friday night. I would come over and he would spend the whole night doing business deals while I watched T.V. I don't view that as quality time. I asked him to separate that time, whenever he could, from his business dealings. I would never ask him to stop. What I want is for him to feel that he can share this part of his life with me...I think he thinks I hate it, or don't want him to do it, and that's not true at all. I've tried to tell him this, but still I feel he's been very closed.