Are you Proactive or Reactive?

“If you’re proactive, you don’t have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own." - Stephen Covey

If you never initiate sex, you can be this way in many other fields of life. Maybe you are got used to for things to happen to you.

In my case, I am pretty Reactive and passive, this is also in searching the relationships, but when it comes to sex, my hormones do the rest, I barely can stop myself even I see that she is not so interested in sex.

Lack of initiative I address to 3rd stage of Erikson's psycho-social development - Initiative vs. Guilt, where my parents blocked my childish exploring of environment in order to be peaceful and quiet child and not to nerve them up. Major question in this stage (4-5 years of age) is: "Is It Okay For Me To Do, Move and Act?"

If you want to resolve that, you can act on symptom (by taking an initiative against your programmed will) or you can try to find a cause of it.

My example is only one of many.

Good luck