My dad was so sweet and gentle. Didn't like guns or hunting, was a gifted guitarist, would have been in some accomplished field of endeavor, but, as he said, he spent his youth behind a mule in a field. He never hit me or was harsh (unlike my mother), and he said to me, as he was about to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day, "You don't have to do this." Wish I'd listened to him and created a scandal instead of going thru with it!