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Originally Posted by waiting4
Yes...bf's and previous husbands. When you think you're sharing and wanting them to understand, what they are doing is filing the information away for later use in an argument. Every. Damn. Time.
I've gotten much better at hiding stuff like that now. It's necessary. I don't have to tell them all of my misshapen, haphazard thoughts...I don't have to admit to fears or shame or real/imagined dismissals. I have to do those things with my T but not with them. Not anymore. I can't take THAT added hurt among all the others.  |
While I understand your approach, I think it's less than ideal. If you're with someone you cannot share your most intimate feelings and thoughts you should not be with them. If you feel the need to hide such information with them then they are not someone you should even consider being intimate with because in my mind, that's a necessary expectation.
I have dealt with people that do that - exes. It does not make me want to hide myself from anyone, but instead makes me convinced that I need to keep looking for that right person I can actually trust fully...