You know what? I have been giving the same conundrum some thought. Is it better to be with someone we love and allow them to have sex with other people or force them to lie to us? Is it asking too much for someone to be monogamous? I am wondering about this same thing. Seriously, I never understood polygamy before, then I read this book about a teenage boy from Sudan and he explained it in such a way that had me wondering if I am missing out on having a relationship that is open and involves other people...I do wonder how to get over the jealously thing, though. This is a difficult space you find yourself in. Keep my mind open and in a place of yes before ending things.