I wouldn't go as far as saying you're being narcissistic. I am sorry if I implied that I thought that. Just because someone isn't able to empathize about a certain situation, does not make them automatically narcissistic. That's human nature. Unless your whole life is all self absorbed and such I wouldn't call it that. From your post I don't gather that and a narcissist probably wouldn't even be able to see this.

Well if you want to be around her and improve the situation, it really comes down to you just trying to understand how significant it is for people. Unless it's an unwanted pregnancy it is indeed a special and welcome time, even with all the pain and suffering it causes physically women still look forward to pregnancy and motherhood. You don't have to know what it's like to empathize with it. sometimes we just have to accept that it's not something we'll understand and then just appreciate that if it makes her happy, be happy for her.

Try not to feel so anti-children. I can understand if you've had bad experiences and that your goals in life may not include children, but if you want a continuing relationship with this friend this is something that will need to change in you because she is going to have a child and your friendship will now include that. IT will only cause undue stress on your relationship if you keep this mindset. Kids can be a good thing and a blessing. Be glad that you're not the one having him/her, because you won't hve the responsibilities but you can enjoy the fun that children's laughter brings.

Can I ask why it is that you do not like children, if you know?