To try and make people understand is not something that usually works. To read about NPD is one thing but to have minds that are actually in tune to what it really is, is something so much more. Look at what so many of us talk about with therapists. Most of us have had nothing but losing battles when it comes to sitting in a chair with a "professional" listening to us and yet they can't see nor understand us. In all honesty we are like children grasping on to still being accepted. Not knowing how to deal with real emotions or being able to understand others. Putting on masks that in essence is the same as the whining child getting what he wants because of negative reactions. We all came from something that wired us to be the way we are, whether we had good, bad or evil parents or non. It is what it is, our little world created that we see in a way that is a continuous lie to our own self. Lie, manipulation and set all the motions forth so we can predict outcomes is not a great way to live. For me I try to understand what emotions are to be in a mental sense and not a definition. For instance if we are happy do we turn to the dictionary to know what they are:

hap·py
ˈhapē/Submit
adjective
1.
feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.
"Melissa came in looking happy and excited"

Or is it a true feeling in a mental state that is just felt??? Obviously happy is an easy one but there are so many that are not!!! Help for us I believe will only come from ourselves. Much harder done than said especially that most of us have told ourselves how perfect we are(more lies and masks). We are still that hurt little child trying to find our ways in a world without any instructions. Step one to being better is having to understand that we can do things for ourselves. To find a way to let go of things and be able to love ourself in a true way and not the fairy tale we have created. I think normal people have a path that leads to choice a or b (The "Y" road). I know that through the times of knowing my issues my paths have been a-z times 100. Our minds are our worst enemies!!!! I am not writing to teach as I am far from a better person, but I have made steps to the direction I want. Anyway in the beginning I did tell people of this that I wish I never did. Keep in mind that its most likely better to keep this to ourselves.