Something does need to change, indeed. I sense quite a bit of resentment from you and a lot of score - card behavior here. You have now mentioned a few times in this thread, the things you are doing for him and then weighing it against what you get in return. Unfortunately as long as you score things this way and let it affect how you see your relationship as if there is some kind of situation where if you do x he needs to do y... you're going to remain unhappy.

There are needs, I don't mean to make it sound like you should not expect things or want things from someone. What I am commenting on is your mindset that there is some kind of score being kept where you're getting all the points and he has none becuase he doesn't do this or that. I'm not sure if you're aware of your doing that which is why I mention it. Thing is, if he does NOTHING for you at all, why are you with him and if he does, why are you focusing on what he doesn't do? It's a matter of how you see things.

Keep in mind there are different love "languages" for people. Each of us should be thinking about how the other one feels loved and how they tend to show it. One might be a gifter, another might be physical, while others may be a servicing person who does things for others.. sometimes there is a mismatch between people. Try to understand his method for showing it and let him know how you feel the most loved. you can't MAKE him be more sexual, physical or anything but you can voice your need to him. The question of how much he cares for you will show in how much he listens to your verbalizing it.

Talking is always good and I know you feel like it's getting nowhere but perhaps it's not the whole act of talking that is ineffective as much as it is how you are talking and what you're commmunicating? perhaps you're just not sparking enough motivaation in him to listen and want to accomodate you. I don't know. Communication is always important and if it's not working, try a different method of communication.

Hope this helps.