Reading through what a lot of people of answered, I was shocked that some of them were so negative, but I suppose that could be because I understood everything you said perfectly... because I felt, at one point, exactly the same way that you did.

I, too, am bisexual, though at the time of my feeling as though others would be better off without a relationship with me, I didn't realize that. I'm 16 at the moment.

When I was younger, up until about age... 10 or 11, I suppose, I was dealing with some very serious emotional hurts. While new hurts were not necessarily being inflicted at that moment, I was still very torn up over old ones. To make a very, very long story short, that pain grew into bitterness, then anger, then murderous rage and hate - and by murderous I do mean that quite literally. I suppose it would be a surprising emotion to find in an 11 year old, but still.

Eventually, I was able to forgive those hurts. It was very difficult, and I wouldn't have been to do it with God, but I was able to release the anger.

Even so, up until this past year, I've never really felt like I could be in a serious, committed relationship, because I didn't want to hurt others... because it felt as though there was this monster inside of me; this monster so much like my father when he inflicted those emotional wounds in me when I was so young, and I was terrified I would inflict similar hurts onto someone else. I still feel that way, sometimes. Because of this, I shunned any potential dates I might've been able to have last year.

However, as a gradual change over this past year, I've been feeling more like I can handle it. Like I am my own person - I am not controlled by what has been done to me. With God's help, I've been forcing myself draw out the more compassionate side of me; the calmer version of me; the one who doesn't see that worst in people.

I don't really know how to advise you. I don't even think I can. However, I do want to give you some hope, because I truly believe that I'm coming out of this. If I can come out of this, I think you can, too. Of course, God is willing to help, also, if you but ask Him...

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." - Philippians 4:13

Another thing, though, is that if you've truly accepted being without a serious relationship, then I don't think there's anything wrong... People don't have to have someone with them in order to be happy or live a fulfilled life. However, from the way you were talking, it sounds more like you're afraid of it, to me, and living your life in fear of something you truly desire is a suffocating feeling... I lived with it for just a couple of years and still feel that way, sometimes, and I look forward to the day I can truly be rid of it.

You may or may not appreciate me sharing my beliefs about God, but I believe them with all my heart, and I share them in the hope that everyone will be able to see God's love for us, because it is truly an incredible thing to experience.

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and of sound mind." - 2 Timothy 1:7

Whatever happens, I truly hope you find happiness, whether it be with someone or without.

~ Tasha