Hi pkey, do you think that your "bad" side is the side of you that's sometimes vulnerable, lacking confidence, feeling unsure, anxious, scared...........and maybe feeling those things make you afraid as well, less in control, less the you you want to be and have other people see?? But it's OK to be all those things at times.
That doesn't make you "less", it doesn't make you weak it just means that things effect you, it just means that you aren't as apart from other people (who are going to feel those things at times too) than you think/fear. And you know sometimes even if those feelings can be really uncomfortable for you at times, they can work for you too.
For example if you're unsure in some situations then that's going to mean that you're going to be really thinking about the pro's and con's of the situation, if you're worried about not doing something right then you're going to be more focused on what you need to do to make it work, if you're feeling vulnerable then you're in a better position to let other people in/and it can show that things really matter to you (which is good). So maybe try to embrace some of those things in yourself a bit??
They don't have to be "bad", you're feeling, you're not numb to things around you, you're not oblivious to things that may turn out to be really meaningful and significant to you, you're open to life, and living, and all the good parts of that too. Without those feelings you'd probably be missing out on so much. So try to give that side of you some credit??? Try not to judge yourself or those feelings too harshly when they come up??? It's alright.
But of course we don't want them going into overdrive now do we??!! So maybe if they're completely taking over just acknowledge them and have a think of what you might be able to do to make you feel better, be a little more understanding/empathetic towards yourself and your feelings??
Maybe tell people what you're feeling and ask for a little support or understanding from them. Nothing wrong at all with that!! Everyone is going to need understanding and support from others at times. Maybe tell yourself that this may take some work but............. Maybe take a closer look at how you are going to get through whatever it is.
Maybe allow yourself to think it's alright to fail at times, that just gives you the knowledge to try again when you're ready and do things differently, it's all a step towards getting something right (a really valuable step!!). And you know for all the things you can't do, there will be something you can do.
And in the words of a genius , just remember: "I know I'm a great person"!!!
Just don't be afraid to bring that to the table, flaws....imperfections.........they're all part of that great person, and can be all part of what makes that person great.
Alison