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Originally Posted by junestarlit
I guess feeling like everything I said wasn't ignored and feeling like receiving any kind of help from him should be expected considering every dime I make goes to him. Why are we helping other people when I don't even have the medical attention I need?? I mean, is literally every want and need of mine put on the back burner for him and everyone else? I don't think that's me keeping a score card I think that's just me realizing i'm completely insignificant in his mind set. I've spoke with him plenty of times asking why things are the way they are and nothing ever changes. So maybe the best thing for me to do is to find a way to move on and out back to where my family is 500 miles away.
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Well I'm really not judging you for it, I'm just saying that you are doing a bit of comparison here and with what you've just said I can undrestand that. AT some point in a relationship where someone starts feeling like they're doing all the sacrificing and the other one doesn't care, it does tend to make us kind of do a score card, but that's not the problem. The problem is that something about the relationship has caused you to look at that. I'm not pointing fingers at you as if that's the source of the issue.
I think in all truth, at some point, if you continue to ask for things from your partner and it falls on deaf ears, you should look at moving on. I'm not one to promote break ups unless it seems there is no agreement from the other partner that something needs to change or taht they need to change things. Once you get to the point where you know they are probably not going to change you have to assess whether it's worth it to keep sacrificing your needs for them or if it's time to move on.
I'm sorry if I sounded judgemental. it seems clear that there is resentment but it's definitely justified. I'm sorry you're having such trouble in your relationship. *hug*