I am not even sure where to start with this. I will try to make a long story short. I was very much "in love" with my previous T. She handled it all just right and 2 years ago we ended our time together when she retired. I tired to get her to agree to go for coffee or something, but her response was always "I will in two years". I got her to promise not to change her phone number and then she gave me permission to contact a mutual friend to get her number should she not be able to keep that promise. I thought that I did well staying within the boundaries of the relationship and did not see or speak to her until a chance meeting about 6 weeks ago. I did send her a copy of the article when I received a national award at work (she left a message on my voice mail thanking me for sending her the article and telling me she was proud of me) and a Christmas card last year, but it was the same one that I sent to everyone else and had the usual greeting. Nothing overly personal. As I said I saw her about 6 weeks ago at a function that she attended at my church. I was at the door handing out programs. She came up to me, smiled, said it was wonderful to see me, and even asked if she could have a hug. Of course, I obliged. All those feelings that I thought that I had dealt with have come pouring back. I have talked with my current T and pdoc about this. Both think that all these feelings coming back are normal. I did mention to my T that 2 years had nearly passed and that I would be able to call Lee. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "GG, you know that you and Lee can never be friends." That wounded me, but I think that I know it is true, though I would so like to prove my current T wrong. I just know that my feelings for Lee are so strong still and that's a little scary. I feel like I have unfinished business with her. Things that I still need to tell her. I am trying so hard to be mature and sensible about this but I feel like a child. So, to call or not to call, or maybe text or something? ugh!! Thanks for "listening" y'all.