I worry that she may be dealing with depression as well. Please do everything in your power to get her help, but understand that she won't start the healing process until she is ready. I'm not saying that you should stay with her indefinitely, rather you can't force her to get better, she must do that on her own. I understand why you are frustrated and at the end of your rope. I have PTSD myself and I know that oftentimes, those with a mental illness must hit rock bottom before they are motivated to start the healing process. Maybe that's what needs to happen with her? She may currently feel no need to change anything in her life because you make more than enough money and there are no consequences to staying home. If the loving route fails at every turn, it may be time for tough love. I wish you the best.