You all are the best-thanks for helping me out here!!
I feel so much better. Oh-I just figured out how to do the multi-quote thing!
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Originally Posted by hankster
I dont get sarcastic really but i will say oh im joking, and my t will totally call me on it. He pretends like he just doesnt get the joke, then i try to explain it, and it just gets worse and worse. So he has pretty much trained me out of it - ie humor as a defense. It sounds like your t IS doing therapy by email or text or whatever, if he gives you interpretations, not just a we'll talk about it next time. So it sounds like he is hearing what you are really trying to say, and to help you get to the next level?
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haha I can picture T sitting there with that blank look while trying to explain. I also wonder why he doesn't say anything when i tell him I needed his comfort. It's not the first time i noticed this...Just the blank look... Hmm.... There is anger behind joking too. I agree with you that he's trying to help, as he always does.
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Originally Posted by Asiablue
Anger? Therapist's love that shizz! Mine gets positively "glowy" if I get angry at her!  |
You're cute.
I should have probably mentioned that I'm ok with the anger in sessions...it's just the angry texts that I felt so badly about!!
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Originally Posted by Leah123
Absolutely, and I'm glad your therapist did their job, which was to provide a safe space to express yourself. We aren't always going to express ourselves beautifully, peacefully, eloquently, and I do think it's important to learn/experience in therapy that we're still okay, even if we don't.
I think we're very clear that we'd never just lash out at someone for no reason, and never believe that we're entitled to be rude (at least not after the fact, haha), but more that we can accept ourselves as imperfect, as is everyone, and learn from the situation, that a lot of guilt isn't going to help.
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You helped me so much-thank you for talking me through this.
Yes, he is very good at his job. It's so easy to feel safe with him.
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Originally Posted by sweepy62
Yep my t doesn't do texts or emails but I have become sarcastic and angry in session , and in voicemail , I always tell her not to call me back.
Therapists do love it when you get those emotions out, they love anylizing that crap, at least mine does, and it's ok that you did not feel guilty.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I write the woman angry letters all the time. It does not seem to phase her any.
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That's good that she can effectively contain your anger.
Feeling much better now.