I get this all the time. "Relationships aren't that great". "Don't worry about sex". "It's all hype". "Boys suck. Don't bother with them". It is so annoying because if you really think that, how about you dump your partner and live alone in celibacy? If relationships aren't great then why the hell do anyone want to get into them?

But to be honest, I don't think that people saying patronizing things is the reason why being a virgin is difficult. Being a virgin at an older age or just losing it or having a relationship later in life is hard because you watch everyone pair off without you. It's like this thing that you can notice everyone else has but for some reason, not you and you don't know why it's never your turn. After a while, you feel like you've been alive X amount of years and no one has been interested in you in all of that time and because of that, you have no value. The fact that the media mocks virgins doesn't help this pre-existing belief.