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Originally Posted by tealBumblebee
I told T something peculiar I did as a child. She asked me if I knew anyone else who did that. Then she went on to point out that that common thing I did as a child was actually uncommon and evident of 'deeper insecurities'.
Was watching Dr. Phil (not necessarily a fan of him but I did watch some of his show today) and the woman spoke about her fears of being kidnapped/harmed, etc. The first thing he asked her was did she think the behavior was normal.
So I was wondering - do your T's ask you that when you tell them something you do? And what does answering yes/no do? Like if you think it's normal is it no longer an issue? Or does your answer determine how they approach the subject? Or what?
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Kind of but no. She mostly repeats what I say back to me if she thinks it's off. Like she's giving me a second chance to rephrase it or realize I'm "off". Make sense?
Like... I told her I HADN'T had any thoughts about hurting myself lately. I referred to it as "weird". She was like, "Uh huh." And I'm like, "Yep." And she's like, "It's WEIRD to NOT want to hurt yourself." Yep.
Clearly, she was trying to get me to see my train of thought is WEIRD and abnormal. And I'm not an idiot. Obviously, I know that. By me saying "weird" I just meant it was different for ME. Neither good nor bad. Weird, meaning different or out of the ordinary.
One thing I hate about therapy is they really like to de-escalate language. And I love dramatic language. I love fun and exciting words. I love describing things in unique ways. So I hope she figures out that I'm not an idiot, I just like colorful language.
Anyway...
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Originally Posted by junkDNA
my T has asked me things like this. like he said do you think its normal to not remember most of your childhood before you were 10? or something like him saying when i told him i used to shower with my clothes on cuz i thought there were cameras in the shower when i was 11 or 12..he said it was a sign of sexual abuse. the thing is i did think those things were normal until i mentioned them to him. i also had an intense fear of being murdered or kidnapped when i was young. i didnt recognize it as abnormal until recently
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Wait, what? Fear of being kidnapped is abnormal? I thought everyone was terrified of robbers and kidnappers when they were little.
No?