What do you mean I'm still in harm's way in this life style?? That scares me!! Mom did come home today, but I found out via facebook post from my sister can you believe it?? I called her cell phone after I saw the post, and they were on the way home. Several relatives who had made it to facebook already knew my mom was coming home before I did. I was so hurt and angry. I did visit later and helped out some. I want to go back tomorrow but may be stuck waiting on the guy to fix our air conditioning who didn't show up today... I'm also worrying about making a pest out of myself, but I do want to visit and help out. I love my mom. We were really close before I got married. Have kind of drifted apart a bit since then, but I still feel I can talk openly to her whereas I can't to my dad or sister. Can you tell me how I can change things, Thunder Bow?? I'm so tired and worn out... It's gone on for years actually. Before the fire just seems so many troubles, and I lost 10 animals before my cats in our first 8 years of marriage. We live near an Indian mound - could there be a connection??