My T does not use the word "normal" very often, and when he does, it's usually in the context of "what is normal anyway?" This works well for me, since "normal" is something I have never been or particularly wanted to be. When I grow up, I want to be eccentric.

However, T has described some features of my upbringing, and some things that my H does, as "bizarre" or similar. A couple of times he's told me that things I relate to him are things he's never heard of anybody doing, in his 30 years as a therapist. It surprised me very much to hear that, since to me, those things are "normal" and I am ornery for not liking them. It just goes to show that I truly have no idea.