My husband is the same way. We do not see his family often. After 2 years of I became pregnant and we initiated a closer relationship to his mom and his siblings (1 brother and 1 sister). His sister had no intention of meeting me until our son was born because my husbands ex-wife told them that the reason they got divorced was because he had an affair with me (not true). In any case she met me after our son was born and we were okay for 2 years. Then we decided to get married and since I had never been married and my husband did not have a formal wedding when he was married we decided to have a formal wedding. Well thats when all hell broke loose. His sister said she could not attend because her daughter had visitation with her father on the day of our wedding, ( she was suppose to be the flowergirl). Then we called his brother who was suppose to be the Best Man and he said he couldn't get off of work to attend our wedding but he was "very happy" for us. Then his sister called and said she could make to our wedding my 10:30 pm. Wedding ended at 12am. In that conversation she got into an argument with my husband and told him that she was not going to attend his f@#^ing wedding and he can stay with his "puerto rican family". They are Venezuelan and Chinese, I am puerto rican. Well as it turned out the only person from his family who attended our wedding was his mother. After that we really do not see much of eachother. I do not have any contact with his sister. I have contact with his mom. I don't call her as often as I should but now she moved in with his sister so I gather it will be even less now since my husband does go into his sisters house either. Sorry for the long post. Didn't mean to take over your post. But it isn't rare to be distant from your in-laws, your husband may have his reasons. I know my husband was raised that way they all do their own thing.
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