Hey GenCat,

I don't think you are mental. Just that you have a big heart...but your T does have her own support network and is very capable of taking care of herself.
When my T's mom died, I was really upset for a while...but that is because we care for one another. Natural reaction. I had to learn to temper it and after expressing my heart felt condolences, we had to continue our work together. Occasionally I ask how his Dad is doing, but that is about it. Try to refocus on why you guys are together and give her a chance to do her work with you which is also probably what she needs right now. Her friends and therapists will surround her with caring as she does when you need it.
Take care..
m