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I did mention to my T that 2 years had nearly passed and that I would be able to call Lee. She looked me dead in the eye and said, "GG, you know that you and Lee can never be friends." That wounded me, but I think that I know it is true, though I would so like to prove my current T wrong. I just know that my feelings for Lee are so strong still and that's a little scary. I feel like I have unfinished business with her. Things that I still need to tell her. I am trying so hard to be mature and sensible about this but I feel like a child.
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I expect that although T may conceivably be in touch with you after two years, she continues to have an ethical responsibility to refuse contact that may be harmful to you. Thus, it is quite possible that she could any any time decide that she is ethically required to limit contact with you now, and even indefinitely.
Also, although it is also quite possible that current T may be wrong, the motivation to actually
prove your T wrong strikes me as a less-than-ideal part of the situation.
I agree with feralkittymom that working through the strong feelings quoted above would be well worth considering. However, I believe that you would need your T to be open to this possibility, rather than taking the viewpoint that friendship can "never" happen.