I've done a significant amount of learning since I first identified it as a problem 2 1/2 years ago. and so far the general consensus has been that a 12 step program is needed for full accountability. Especially since he's been lying to his other recovery group a good majority of the time. I did send him an email today asking what his current plan for recovery is and for his mental health going forward so that I can have that to consider.

Unfortunately I'm a fixer... and when I married him I didn't realize he would end up needing to be fixed... I thought I had broken my cycle... And my counselor strongly feels that I cannot be married to a project... And while I believe that their is freedom and healing in Christ for him I don't know that it's something that I can be a part of.