Something I've noticed in talking to people, listening to them and sometimes reading what they've said in different places, I've come to the conclusion that there is one thing that a lot of people could do better at with regards to being with a person they love.

I feel that many times when someone has issues with depression, bipolar or any other mental issue, the partners get on some kind of high horse and feel that because of this weakness or challenge of their counterpart they become the "strong one" in the relationship. Now this may be the case sometimes but the problem I see time and time again is not that they can be supportive and care for the other person, but in their attitude.

I see far too often people making the mistake (both genders but more often the male) of blaming much of the problems in a relationship on the partner's weakness and mental illness. This is a mistake because as soon as we do that the thing that always follows is the person in question will stop being as motivated to look at themselves in the mirror and taking any responsibility for any of the problems. Just because you don't have a diagnosed MI does not mean you are without fault and I really get tired of seeing people think this way.

I know that sometimes it's not intentional and most times they are not aware of their attitudes but I only post this to any of the non-afflicted readers here to stop and look at themselves sometime and realize having a mental illness in no way makes one a lesser person, less capable of doing right or anything like that.

/end rant

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