Could you may be give her a copy of this post and see if she can understand where you are coming from. Have you discussed the fact you are having issues with masturbating? Maybe that would be a good place to start after all until you are comfortable with yourself, it's going to be okay with sex with girls. I really wish I had more help I could give but it is a hard problem to deal with. You obviously, have big issues with sex. Have you looked into your childhood? Was there any abuse that needs to be addressed? Did something, event or someone that caused you to have these issues? There are lot of issues to address in counseling that might lead to the answer. I don't know if this counselor is going to be right for you are not, but please don't give up. You should not have to suffer with this for your whole life. Good luck to you.