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everyone who says their T says "what is normal?" How does that make you all feel? I don't think I would appreciate that answer honestly. Because I need boundaries and not someone to 'normalize' everything I do. I'd probably thank them but I wouldn't trust their opinions much if they suggested everything I did was "ok" or "normal".
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Originally Posted by growlycat
...Even if something I do is rare or weird he would say that it isn't so weird, that it makes sense given my background/history...
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This is more or less what she said word for word.
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Originally Posted by kororain
...By me saying "weird" I just meant it was different for ME. Neither good nor bad. Weird, meaning different or out of the ordinary...
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I always say weird lol. We're learning "new words" though to replace that with.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
...Whenever I would go to a store with my little friends, I always worried that the parent of my friend was really trying to ditch us at the local Kmart or whatever it was. Like getting rid of a box of kittens…
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Originally Posted by Teacake
...But OP, I'm really curious to know what you did as a child that was abnormal but still a really good idea.  . I might want to try it, just for fun. |
Lol, now that i've told you - you said it's not weird at all. Haha. *shrug* It's not a "for fun" thing as much as a 'preparation for disaster' lol. She still asked me about that though and said it's not common. Maybe
she's the abnormal one for being unprepared. haha.
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Originally Posted by NoddaProbBob
When I was self-harming, my very sarcastic T would say "And how's that working for ya?" ... I eventually had to ask her to stop saying that because it was making me feel incredibly ashamed...Would you prefer your T not say those things to you or use phrases like that?
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I can see why that would make you feel ashamed.
I'm glad you were able to stand up for yourself and address the issue.
No it doesn't bother me at all. In fact it didn't really 'stand out' to me until I heard Dr. Phil ask the lady that question. Then I started to wonder the significance of the questions thats all.
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Originally Posted by Mastodon
...When I grow up, I want to be eccentric...
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Me too
I've already told T I embrace my 'weirdness'.
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Originally Posted by Lauliza
...I am and always have been very fearful in nature, so I go to extremes and check (and re-check) the locks, closets, showers, under beds, cover all the windows at night, etc. When I asked if this was normal, I got a straight up "No, that is not normal"
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Actually that is more or less what the girl on Dr. Phil was there for. Also, she couldn't be alone, never opened the curtains (on a really nice day she would open the blinds - max). She would call her parents to stay with her if her fiance couldn't be with her and would walk down the street with 911 predialed on her phone (which i've actually done before haha).