I have heard that as well... after many weekends my boss will complain about having to spend so much time with the in-laws and I can never relate. In fact, I will mention how I wish my husband was closer to his family and she will say something along the lines of "be careful what you wish for". Also, I can relate to the other issue of being somewhat too attached to parents/family. While I have complaints about my hubbie not calling or wanting to spend so much time, he often feels that I have trouble not being able to "cut the cord". So it does go both ways.

Also, his dad is a recovering alcoholic (sober for a year) and my husband was always embarrassed to go over there and very uncomfortable when we did spend time- especially for holidays when things were really bad. He even admitted once that he "always hated Christmas" because it meant watching his dad be a sloppy drunk and be out of control (not mean, but obnoxious). So it could be that even though he is now sober, he is just used to not wanting to spend time there.

Thanks for the posts.