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Old May 30, 2014, 03:37 AM
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It is distressing to hear about your difficulties, reetu, and I hope things can improve. Personally, I think the first thing you might want to look at is your social circle. Honestly, spending 20 hours a day with the same person, even if you love them immensely, can lead to tension. Marriage takes work and it has its stressful times just as any other relationship does. Perhaps, you can find friendships that will allow you to introduce some variety in your lives. I have a feeling that can make a big difference. Also, you probably do need some personal time for yourselves regularly to allow some freshness back into the marriage. We all have both personal and social needs as human beings. You might also benefit from a vacation from your business and take a little time to relax and enjoy each other's company in a different setting. A marriage counselor could serve as a mediator to help you express your feelings to each other and provide strategies to become closer once again. Take some time and look at all your options. I have a feeling there are ways for you to restore your marriage to a healthy state if you just both take a breath and genuinely commit to finding a way to help your marriage. That will most likely take the form of several components but it can renew your lives in a multitude of ways.
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