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Old May 30, 2014, 01:30 PM
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I posted a few days ago about my friend, to whom I am attracted, and whether or not I should kiss him. The opinions were mixed, with some people saying that I definitely should boldly kiss him and others saying they would feel uncomfortable if a friend kissed them, and that it could jeopardize the friendship.

I realized that I don't have the courage to kiss him. I just simply can't do it; I'm too scared.

So now I think I'm going to write him a letter expressing my feelings. I think this is a good idea because it will give him time to reflect on what I've said, and he won't feel pressured into responding one way or another. It would also be drawing on my strengths as a writer.

But my boss thinks it's a bad idea; he told me that writing a letter would be moving too fast.

This friend touches me often (hugs, arm around shoulder, legs rub against mine), always seems interested and engaged in what I'm saying, when he finds a restaurant he wants to try asks if I'd like to go there, and laughs at all my jokes. At the same time, he rarely calls or texts me first, he often has to reschedule our dates, he calls me "buddy" which makes me think I'm in the friend zone (though he hasn't done that in a few weeks).
He is relatively shy. He has more experience with dating than I do. He told me several months ago that he doesn't want to date anyone because he doesn't think he can commit to one person. The one time I brought up the possibility of us dating, he told me he was "not nice enough" for me. That was in January, and around the time that another girl was chasing after him (he didn't want to be with her either).

What do you all think? Should I write the letter? I feel pretty confident that we will still be friends even if he doesn't feel the same way, as he is still close with the female friend who was chasing after him in January. But at the same time, I don't want to embarrass myself if he doesn't like me romantically.
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