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Originally Posted by Perna
So don't! Don't let what he does affect what you do? I have friends on my email list I haven't heard from/talked to for years because they "dropped" me kind of like your friend because of their thoughts/ideas/feelings, etc. We can't do anything about what another is thinking/feeling, even if it is relating to us and the relationship we have/had with them. I'd look for other friends on there to play with and just kind of keep him there too, in case he was interested in playing with you in the future.
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At this point I'd rather have him back on my friendslist so that could possibly happen, but its too late now. Thanks for replying though.
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Originally Posted by BeteNoire
I went through a similar thing with my ex. He was a huge part of my gaming life so when I cut him out I could barely even look at my computer. Took me a month just to turn my PS3 back on because not seeing him in my FL upset me- still does a little and I still find myself waiting for my skype to ping even though I've completely unistalled it.
It'll pass. I know that doesn't help right now but it is the truth. This person has been a big part of your life for a long time, it takes some adjusting.
I would also like to say that I don't think this is entirely your fault. It sounds like you've done you're fair share of supporting him too and his own actions kind of show him to be someone you probably couldn't have relied on anyway.
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I'll probably take a little break from gaming, or at least from team fortress 2 so I won't have to be reminded of things (or wind up joining a server he happens to be in again on accident). Time heals most wounds though, I know I'll get to the point where this no longer bothers me, but in the meantime I'll just try to preoccupy myself with other things.
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Originally Posted by lizzyjb
There are some kind of persons that aren't able of telling what is not right, wating for a magical solution. Or hoping that you have a magic ball to be able of knowing without tell what's wrong. Times flys and one day the little issue is bigger and then you can't do anything. I can't understand why they can't say at the first moment what's it wrong. It's better let it die.
I know there's nothing I can't say to make you feel better but when someone can't be honest since the first moment, let it behind is the best. I talk about my experience.
Sure you are going to find new friends soon. Hugs.
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Yeah, thats him alright. Hes not a confident person and has trouble speaking his mind so when things got too much for him, instead of coming out and telling me about it he let it build up until it stressed him out to the point where he couldnt deal with it anymore. He told me that he had been secretly wanting to end the friendship for a long time now but kept things going in the hopes that they would get better. They would of gotten better if he had just said something before now. These issues that bothered him though are no longer a problem for me, I told him as much in that last message but it didnt sway his decision, even though I wish it had. I find myself going back and pinpointing all the times where I could of done something differently but I cant go back in time and change anything. I just have to deal with things as they are now.