Hello Ishiru: Well, I don't know if I can give you an example of coming out slowly. From what you've written, you've done several things already as far as hairstyle, clothing & mannerisms go. At some point, you do just have to come out & say it, or write it. And this can be difficult because you don't know what to expect. I don't know if you see a therapist. How to approach this would be a good thing to talk with a therapist about.

I suppose one way in which people come out slowly is that they first tell a trusted friend or family member (probably not parents.) They see how this goes. Then they wait a bit & tell another one or two trusted individuals, etc. This allows them to practice what they say & how they say it, and to make adjustments as they go along. They delay telling the individuals who may be the most challenging until they've had a chance to practice on a few more sympathetic persons. Does this make sense?

It sounds as though you're pretty certain you are trans. I do hope though that you have had an opportunity to work with a gender therapist on this. Or, if not, that you will be able to do so. Transition is a process that can be difficult. You need someone you can talk things through with as you proceed along the path. In the meantime, though, at least you do have PC. And there are many knowledgeable people here. So keep posting!