well, ho easily do you fall in love? I know that I fall in love rarely........ because it is such a special emotion it doesn't happen easily, just naturally. This is probably unwanted, harsh reality kind of advice, but when my hubby ran off with my friend so many months ago, this is what I was told...... "you didn't fall in love in a day, you aren't going to fall out of love in a day. Lose contact with 'em, and get over it on your own time." It's hard to hear, but it's true. I am dating again, and I am going on with my life. It takes time to fall in love....... 6 months for me and him, and it took me about that much time to get over it when he left me. Love is a devestating emotion, but if you open yourself up for the joys, you have to accept the possibility of pain.