i'm having the same issue. i've been horribly depressed due to relationship problems. he's made horrid remarks about me and my body which have led me to the depression. i have explained to him that, as a woman, i need to feel love and sexy in order to get into it, so he hurriedly spits out a bunch of "compliments" to try to get me going. doesn't help. he gets frustrated. i don't enjoy him touching me, i get anxiety just thinking about having sex with him. i've tried to explain this to him, that i have no libido, no sex drive due to this depression, and i just get called a cold b**** and asked to fake it.
i haven't enjoyed sex in months, and i don't even know how long it's been since i've had an orgasm.
i wish i had an answer for you, or even some good advice. but if anything, i wish my boyfriend was more understanding, unselfish, and patient.
you're not alone in this department.