Hi,

I had a lot of problems with my inlaws (still do, but my reactions have changed over the years).

We, at one point, did counseling. My inlaws chose the person and gave her inaccurate information. It was pretty awful.

However, it sounds as though you chose the counsellor, and your "mother in law" is reaching out now. I think this might be an opportunity to reach some reconcilliation.

I wouldn't expect an apology, before or after counselling.. I am sure your inlaws feel justfied in what they have done. Even if you reconcile, an apology is not necessary. (Would be nice, but, lots ofthings would be nice.)

You need to think about what you want... do you want to reconcile, for the sake of your relationship/engagement/children/fiance? Can you handle knowing that there are negative feelings about you and that they will arise occasionally? (It is unlikely that will magically go completely away after such a breach.)

All in all, I think meeing with a counsellor would be a good idea, since it was originally your idea, and your choice of counsellor.

Hope this helps.