Her counciler knows, which means your daughter probably told her something otherwise as alot of SIers know....that is very big......remember the counciler cant just guess..there are too many students to just go searching through so that is why i am pretty sure your daughter has admitted something....What i am worried about is the steps now going to be taken. This was the number one mistake my parents did after i told my counciler...granted they were abusers...and um definitly not as nice as you are to your children but please dont let fear overwhelm you. My parents ended up talking to the counciler...then they ganged up on me....and in the end everyonne sall it as my fault and wanting attention....i am not really intelligent enough to give you advice in this however i can tell you what not to do if youll take that....i wouldnt repeat over and over agin that it is your fault....it cornered me and got me angry because i knew partially it was true...and that they really didnt mean it....also they got sick of me....and eventually told me everytime we fought...to "Just go cut yourself" now i know youd never do that im just saying please be careful that anger leds to places we definitly dont want to go
Id suggest maybe the counciler should talk to your daughter still however you and your daughter should seperate from that and work on it through your own systems, just sit down with her and let her talk....tell her your here for her...and maybe suggest you could take her to counciling...remember im going on my own experiences.....so what was there for me isnt exactly what will happen for you....and you might meet with some resistance at first but keep telling her you love her and if you suspect she is going to do it volunteer to take her to movie...or for ice cream...something that will take her mind off it...i know im not much help but id really like to be of some help...and i probably confused you..but its bringing so many memories back for me but i really wanted to respond ...so i hope i helped...even if it was a tiny bit. good luck and let us know how it goes
love, Inny