It's not really about whether he loves you - it's about whether you are emotionally compatible.

It seems like you're trying to encourage him to change but you can't change other people - they have to want to change themselves.

I don't know where his behaviour comes from, if in childhood he learned the wrong things about situations where someone is upset, but I feel really sad for you. This isn't good enough. A partner who ignores and rejects you when you're upset is not good enough.

It doesn't matter if he loves you. What matters is whether your relationship has mutual respect, empathy and kindness, which it does not.