tiodlliwi, I don't think what you describe is related to being a man or not. Lots of women also are distant from their parents. If your husband is fine with his current level of interaction with his parents, then I wouldn't push for more. If you, however, really like his parents and want to spend more time with them, then by all means, find opportunities to visit on your own. At one point during my marriage, we lived quite close to my husband's grandmother, who I really connected with. She and I would get together on our own for lunch or to go to a museum or a walk in the park. It was really nice. Husband thought it was great--the girls out doing their thing. It was all very cordial.