Oh, and on overcoming fear... I cannot believe that I am writing it and that your therapist has not explained such a simple thing to you.

Had people waited until they have overcome their fears, we would not be having this conversation because the progress of civilization would not have happened. People would have died out from hunger huddling together in caves and afraid to go hunt outside.

I hope the point is clear without further elaboration and examples.

The word "fearless" is a fun, romantic, energizing term, but it is a misnomer. In reality, people who appear fearless are not fear-less - they just act as if they didn't have fears. That is where you need to go - where you can take your fear along but act despite the fear... Not being enslaved by it.

As it stands, you are a perfect patient for a therapist who wants long term clients that are easy. You do not present emergency issues, so the therapist can sleep well at night knowing that you would not get in trouble with the law, and that you would continue coming and rehashing the same thing again and again. A perfect cash cow for the therapist.