Well I know it's not normally safe to take a guy back to the pad so quick, but one, we never went inside, I know to keep things public, and 2 I have a 350 lb. guy roomie, who is my best buds boy toy...... so I know I am safe if he tried anything funny. And truely, I have no clue what I want, I am kinda going with life's flow........and it's worked so far......I am currently alive and kicking. I will always be safe........ I have to talk a lot with a person on the net.........we're talking months.... b4 I will go on a date with them. So yea, it's not fool proof, but I try. I hope he's a nice guy....... cuz I am infatuated. Oh well, thanks for the imput guys...... I really appreciate it! (((((((((huggles for all)))))))))))) LUV U ALL!