Hi lostwonder, afraid I'm not a former (or current) sex industry worker and I may not be able to help much but maybe I can try to offer you just a little empathy/support (?) as none have stepped in?? If you'll let me try?
It sounds like you're seeing what you did/what happened in your life from a different reality now you have that distance from it. And you're now maybe wondering how you could have done that/believed the things you did/let what happened happen. And maybe a lot of hurt..........over that?
Maybe a lot of hurt.........as to how you were "influenced" or the circumstances that allowed it to happen as well?

Just got to make a point here though, I'm not saying anything about the sex industry in general, just what I think I'm getting from you.

But you know you have that distance now, you could only do what you thought was right for you at the time, or you could only play the cards you felt you were dealt. That doesn't need to say that you were "wrong". You did what you could, and I'm sure there were influences that led you that way. But never mind anyone else in the industry who aided in you continuing with that, it's you who really matters in all of this. Everyone else will have gone their own ways wherever that might have led them. Maybe focus on you now.
And try not to judge yourself unfairly/harshly/unsympathetically on what happened then. In fact you need your own support as much as the support of others in moving on again. And you did move on, it must have taken a lot of strength to work through things and come to where you are now with the kind of life it sounds like you really wanted/want. So nothing to "beat yourself up about".
Maybe you're looking back on aspects of it as being abused, cheapening yourself......from what I think you might be feeling/saying as sometimes people out of it can feel that way. But maybe see it as a part of your life which is there (no denying it) but which helped you on the path towards finding yourself (who you want/ed to be), finding what you sense now is your true worth (if you're feeling that way about it!), finding where you really want to be in life. And no sense of "shame" in that right??!!. Although if it would help to talk to a T............to help you with that, if you need to.
Anyway, I'll leave it as that, in case I'm way off target. But if you want to talk more, right here for you.
Alison