I agree with what FavoriteJeans said AND I think your T may be uncomfortable with lgbtq issues. And, you say she's only been a counselor for three years. I would discuss these things with her. And I'd like to add, being lgbtq has less to do with whom you sleep with, than many other things. You can be lgbtq and be a big in, or celibate, or not having sex for many other reasons.