Katheryn, thank you for being such a wonderful mum and really caring about your daughter. That is one thing I lacked in my life growing up- any sort of relationship with my mother other than to fight and argue with her. She only found out that I SI when I was 25/26, and even now I never EVER talk to her about it even though our relationship is far better than it was growing up. As long as you have a strong, open relationship with your daughter she will hopefully come to you when she feels ready. As has been noted already, the SI is a symptom of the emotional stress she is experiencing and I am sure her counsellor will be encouraging her to talk with you every time they meet. My T asked recently how I would feel if my daughter came to me to tell me that she was going thru the issues I am at the moment- I was so distressed at the thought of even the possibility of that ever happening but it made me realise that I need to maintain an open loving unconditional relationship with her always so that she CAN come to me at any time with ANYTHING.
((((((((((katheryn))))))))))
You will need heaps of support too while facing these issues; take care and I hope things work out ok for you, your family and especially your daughter.