Some people cannot comphrend the extent of pain and tiredness. My dad never got the pain my mother was in with RA. He always had her doing things to take care of him, who had nothing wrong with him. Her pain was then complicated by COPD and he still didn't get how fagile she was. Some people just never get it. If you feel there may be irratation in my post, it's because I've never quite forgave him. I'm convinced had he taken better care of her she would have not died as soon as she did. I am working toward forgivness but it's not easy. She waited on him hand and foot.

So besure to take the time you need for you and learn to ignore his uneducated remarks.
Bless you.