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I know sometimes my friends will only share with me the bad things going on in their relationship....and I want to support and protect them. What I have learned over the years is that it is important to share the good things about your relationship to your friends. I know many times I worry and follow up to see how things are coming along...and most of the time things are resolved - I get a little pee'd off....I wish they would have shared that with me as well!
It's your life and ultimately it only matters what the 2 of you think of each other. I agree that it is incredibly unhealthy to feel like ending your life because of his friends and the fact that your fiancé knows this as well...what a terrible position to be in for both of you. So glad that he is taking action and going to therapy with you from time to time.
You can only control yourself and your reactions to the friends...very difficult I am sure...because you all cannot be friends together. They may never understand your illness - that's reality. Pick people in your own life that understand you.
Good Luck!
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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