Hello, Admadguy, and welcome to Psych Central! Please keep in mind that if you are condemning her for her non-virgin status while thinking your non-virgin status is fine, then you are holding her to a double standard. Not to be picky, but if you are somehow thinking about this matter from a religious perspective, then at least she was married when she had sex.

I think many religions are now more accepting of divorces. I know mine now even allows divorced clergy. They are saying the involved scriptures refer to the days back then when, if a woman wasn't married, then she often had to support herself as a prostitute.

I actually suggest you talk to a counselor about this matter. It's not fair to her to hold back your affection and total commitment because of your obsessions. Okay?