Hi Guys,

My first post so got a few things to get off my chest, sorry if it is long and really appreciate any help you may have:

Partner and I got together at 16, had a baby at 17 and have lived together from the beginning. My partner suffers from depression and at the beginning of the year spent two weeks in a psychiatric hospital. Since returning, she has been happier and improving her life. But bit by bit our relationship has been drifting off. She has become so unreasonable and says she feels like she is falling out of love for me. This is not new to me as when she was at her worst and suicidal, horrible comments and unneccesary shouting etc. is now something i'm used to and don't take too personally. But whilst everything else in her life has picked up, our relationship has slowly deteriorated and I just don't understand why. I am loving towards her, do everything I can and ask anyone around us they will say the same. I've been there for her when nobody was and because of all the help I've given her, her other relationships, friends & family have dramatically improved and she is a happy person now. All except for me. She just has some hatred towards me where anything I do or say is a lie. Im apparantly being 'sly' and she says this frustrates her the most. I understand to a point what she is saying because in situations I will word things the best way possible and clear so there is no mistake in what I'm saying to her so she cannot fly off the handle by misunderstanding, even this does not work.

The arguing lately has been constant, we are spending more time not talking in an argument that actually speaking normally at all. Each time this happens bit by bit its just taking its toll on me and her but whenever we reach a resolution to all the arguing, its mainly down to not being bothered to argue anymore and we will act as though nothing happened and be loving again towards eachother.

I want to know when really when enough is enough. We've been through so much together and if you ask any friends or family they will tell you were the best couple they've ever seen. I just feel so lost now, and I will be so frustrated if this does not work out but what am i supposed to do or even say as a defence to her when every part of her life has improved and she is happy yet all of a sudden i'm such a problem?

Thank you.