Actually Teacake, my situation with the lawsuit and having had to deal with even more intrusiveness has made it hard. I find that if I try to "not talk" it only makes it worse. Instead being in therapy and sorting through it (with the right therapist) has helped me a lot. I just got to a point that holding it in was harming me. I didn't realize how very much it was harming me either, had no idea. And when I held it in, for some reason that only allowed others to be ok with being intrusive or abusive. I just never realized it was hurting me that much, I thought I rose above it, but that was simply not the case. Surprise, surprise.