I can't vote either, because it fluctuates so wildly! Today I feel thoroughly grateful toward my T. But tomorrow I might be full of anger toward him. It's a bit out of control I don't really ever feel "in love" with him, though. And I don't see him like family....I'm not sure what seeing him like family would even mean But I feel indebted to him sometimes, which I think is unhealthy. He's just a guy and not a saint. I have to remember that one....