OK so apparently I cant explain things the right way, and its my fault im having issues because I told T I THINK im gay and NOT SURE? Does it matter how I worded it for her to have a problem?

The reason I brought this up to her was because the day before I was having serious romantic feelings for a friend of mine, that I thought were gone. I also struggle with strong feelings for women older than me, like I have a "type" I am only interested in, which I told T because I wanted to solve this issue of why women? not men? Am I gay? But ive had boyfriends, so why do I only feel this way toward certain woman who look a certain way?